In the first episode on the Husbands and Fathers track of Shine Brightly, I uncover the importance of identifying mistaken beliefs and creating new empowering beliefs. 

Here’s what’s covered in this episode:

Mistaken beliefs

Uncovering mistaken beliefs is the first step to shining brightly as a father and husband.

The old model of manhood

Husbands and boys growing up in the old model were taught to be stoic and without feelings. We’re taught that our only value is achievement. 

The new model of manhood

In the old model, we’re willing to die for something or someone else. In the new model, I ask if you’re willing to live for someone or something. 

Your presence is your present

Being willing to fail, make mistakes, and show feelings is a great gift to give to your spouse and children. 

Uncovering and adding to these beliefs

If we want to maximize our potential as a husband and a father, we need to keep uncovering these beliefs. They’re limiting. We need to accept them because they’re not going away, but we need to add to them. Develop new strategies and behaviors and be on our own side. We need to show up, be vulnerable, be present, and be that gift that our partners and children need.

Takeaway challenge

Reflect on the quote in the video and think back to some of the limiting beliefs that were instilled in you at a young age.